Loving My Eccentric Aunt…

Okay, I know that relatives can be a little overwhelming and among all of them, there’s always an aunt that can be somewhat eccentric.  I happen to have an aunt who resembles Betsy Johnson, the American fashion designer.  Same blonde hair, but picked up in a pony tail and same bangs covering her forehead.   Even the style in which she dresses is rare.  She is not restricted to other people’s opinion and seems to live a free life.  Some people might look at her strangely, yet I admire her for who she is, and how she perceives life.

At a family gathering, my eccentric aunt sat right next to me and started asking me for advice; little does she know that I write about this stuff.  After many years of being alone, she now seems to be writing to a friend, on-line.  Someone who she apparently likes a lot, and by what I read on the emails, the feeling seems to be mutual.  Of course, as I was talking to her, I thought to myself, shouldn’t I be taking advice from her, after all she is about 20 something years older than me.   Something is wrong with picture?

Did I try to give her the best advice I could?  Of course I did.  Did I encourage her to move forward with her new profound relationship? Absolutely!  After all, what are the odds of finding your perfect partner after a certain age?  Relationships can be complex and tricky at times, so falling in love late in life can be so wonderful.  I’m a firm believer of not giving up on love, no matter what age.  And at the end of the day, I was definitely not going to ruin her moment of happiness.

It might take some of us a while to find our true love and sometimes a while feels like forever.  But I can assure you, that when you do find the one person that you’ve been waiting for all your life, it will fill you up like nothing you have ever experienced before.  It will be invigorating.

Word of advice, no matter what age; If you’ve got it, flaunt it! 

Looking for Charming and found Fred Flintstone

I didn’t get a chance to write last week.  However,  I did get a chance to talk to a friend who cyberdates, which I found interesting.  To her there’s not much of a difference meeting a man online than meeting him at a bar.  She said, “if an individual is going to lie about their status, they will do so either over the internet or in front of you.”  This I do agree with, however, I do think there is more of a chance of someone lying to you online than in front of you. Online you can write and say all the words that come to mind as easily as writing them on a piece of paper.  I wonder how safe it is to find someone online…

Imagine talking to someone who has a picture of herself online and is a stunning Pamela Anderson look-a-like. You then set up a date to meet at a bar; you’re looking around the bar for the person you saw on the web and when you finally meet….she looks completely different.

What will some guys do?

I worked a long time ago with this guy that went out to meet a girl at a bar. He said that she was nothing like the picture she had on the web.  He introduced himself, shook her hand and walked out.

I was like…Wow! How harsh is that?  He later told me that if she was bold enough to lie about the way she looked, she could easily lie about anything else. And of course, it goes the other way around also.  Apparently there was no attraction there.

Image from famous-cartoon.blogspot.com

Now, for some of the ladies out there, you go out expecting to meet “Charming” and you end up meeting …Fred Flintstone.

What happened to first impressions?  You meet someone for the first time, you feel an attraction, suddenly your brain starts wondering in different directions.   The eyes make contact, you smile, he smiles.  I personally love a man with a great smile.  Has simple dating just gone out the window?

I love this quote by Franz Kafka: “May I kiss you then? On this miserable paper? I might as well open the window and kiss the night air.”