Have you ever thought that one of the reasons that you don’t date is the fact that you feel safe in your own zone? You don’t have to worry about someone turning you down or cancelling a date after you’ve been looking forward to it all day long. And let’s not mention the emotions which you feel going haywire as you think that you’ve finally met someone special. Suddenly the fear of dating could very well hit you like a bulldozer. Meanwhile you just realized that the so called “fear of dating” has been hiding as an excused all this time under you trying to focus on your career and not having time for anything else. What happens after this? From experience I will tell you.
You meet someone that changes your daily routine, not to mention your whole world and before you realize it, you’ve just gotten yourself on top of a rollercoaster ride, that’s when you begin to doubt yourself. The barrier that you had between yourself and the dating world, suddenly starts chipping away and you start feeling some anxiety, nervousness and fear. You start examining yourself more. Does this dress compliment my figure? Are my thighs too big? Is my hair too curly? What the heck just happened?
At this point, you’re already in the ball park. You have two choices. Your first choice will be your safe zone which is quickly backing away and continuing to live the life that you’ve lived up to now, which is the life that you feel comfortable in. Your second choice is to go for that feeling that you haven’t had in a long time. The feeling of having someone not only wine and dine you, but having someone that listens to you, someone that you can have an adult conversation with, someone that you actually feel some kind of connection with and that the two of you feel naturally comfortable with each other. The smile that begins to form on one’s face when the phone rings or the excitement of receiving a text message. Scary isn’t it? (As my cousin would say, Hell to the Yeah!)
My suggestion, make the choice that is right for you. When in a relationship, there are going to be moments where you are going to feel scared. It’s natural for us to feel this way. And yet, at the same time, don’t lose the opportunity to be with someone that you really like, someone that you feel attracted to. Just to find someone that might actually understand you is definitely worth playing in the ball park. Learn from your own experiences and not from the experience of others. Always remember, make your own choices and your own destiny, let no one make them for you. Embrace it, Enjoy it, let it be your own risk, your own happiness and your own experiences.